Chapter 9

Everyone makes mistakes.
As an ally, you will make mistakes.
You might hurt autistic people by accident.
Your advocacy might not work.

Sometimes, autistic people will tell you about mistakes you made.
Or, you will find out on your own.
Making mistakes is a normal part of being an ally.
It is important to know when you made a mistake.
Then, you can make it better.
You can figure out how to fix your mistakes.
You can keep trying to be a good ally.

Some mistakes will be easy to fix.
For example, you might use a word that hurts us.
It is easy to stop using that word.

Some mistakes will be harder to fix.
For example:

You might have a job that hurts autistic people
The job might try and make us look less autistic.
This makes it harder for us to be ourselves.
You might need to change your job.

Being an ally sometimes means doing hard things.
Autistic people understand that.
We have to do hard things all the time.
It is hard to live in a societyA big group of communities. A society usually has rules and people in charge. that hurts us.
It is important that our alliesNon-autistic people who want to help autistic people. All sorts of people can be allies. work hard to change that.

Families can be strong alliesNon-autistic people who want to help autistic people. All sorts of people can be allies. for their autistic family members.
Many years ago, parents of disabled kids started getting together.
They worked to close institutions.
They fought for their kids to get support in the community.
Parents are still fighting today for the rights of their kids.
You can be a part of that fight, too!

Families can make a big difference for their family members.
You can support your autistic family member to have a good life.
You can help fight for our rights.
You can make sure your family is a safe place for us.
You can help other families be allies, too.

There is some information and tools just for you at the end of this chapter.

• Don’t Mourn for Us – by Jim Sinclair – http://www.autreat.com/dont_mourn.html
• Checklist of Neurotypical Privilege – by Bev Harp – http://aspergersquare8.blogspot.com/2009/08/checklist-of-neurotypical-privilege-new.html
• Autistikids – http://www.autistikids.com/
• In the Loop About NeurodiversityThe idea that humans have all kinds of brains. There is no such thing as a “normal” brain. – https://intheloopaboutneurodiversity.wordpress.com/
• Learn From Autistics – https://www.learnfromautistics.com/
• Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism – http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/
• Think Inclusive – https://www.thinkinclusive.us/
• Parenting Autistic Children with Love & Acceptance – https://autloveaccept.wordpress.com/